Showing posts with label Love Hunt. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love Hunt. Show all posts

Thursday, May 8, 2014

10 years ago

A high school friend posted a status on her facebook last month:
"Happy 10th Wedding Anniversary, my Darling"

She posted that on the same week I posted my Japan trip photos
The irony is 10 years ago, I visited Tokyo Disneyland for the very first time; and I was actually visiting the playground again after 10 years!!! 
>.<~ this's bad. So bad.

Saturday, October 26, 2013

"When you can't get a job, Create a job"

When 2 or more middle aged people gathered around, there's one topic that never failed to set their gear up: Matchmaking. Even if the mid-aged ones are un-married, divorced or even having a miserable, tormenting and torturing marriage, it still won't stop them to join the "sacred" conversation.

Apparently there's a mid-age unmarried man that worry about me and my 2 friends. Let's call him "uncle"
I have to admit he is a good guy, way too good that it's sometimes he underestimate others' ability, and of course there are times he is being taken advantage by irresponsible people. Although unmarried, Uncle see himself as foster father to many, this include me too...

Uncle worries a lot too, he worries that me and my 2 friends are unable to find a perfect guy, so he always set his radar ON!!!
One time, during a long conversation about matching these 3 girls to who, who and who...
He gave out some info:
1. girl #1 (tat's me)... need to find a guy more superior than me, orelse he'll feel intimidated. Hhehehe... common-sense, which girl wanna get a weak guy?
2. girl #2 has an attitude (in negative way), so he was abit reluctant to matchmake her
3. girl #3 is such a perfect girl, she'll a good wife and good mother material. Such a gentle and loving being.

Because of the uncle's analysis, I got a complaint, "Ming, why cant you be as gentle and loving as girl #3?. She'll be good wife and good mother. Why can't you be like her"

I happened to personally know these 2 girls, girl #3 is indeed very lovely, basically a princess. She can't even hold a knife to cut fruit. Get real about being good wife and mom. She'll be great throphy wife.
Of course, I can't blunt out these facts, it would make me seems like such a bitter person (maybe I am... Hahha)

But then, later on, I found out the reason why uncle was rushing to marry off girl #3
Her family is not doing very well, she's now working for her first-time-ever real-life job, with a standard salary.
According to uncle, such princess girl doesn't belong in workforce, he - as a over-worry uncle worries about the 8-5 work, seems way too hard for her.
So, to get her out of such situation, he said the best and quickest option is to find a rich dude to save the helpless damsel in distress.

Gee! after I found out the real reason why it's girl #3 that is urgently need to find a husband, I am in great relief - this's cynical. But then I don't feel so bad anymore. Hahaha

I know there's a quote saying "When you can't get a job, Create a job"

It's seems like some people interpret it differently.
My college friend wanted so much to stay in Oz rather than going back to Indo. That's totally fine, but the problem is she is not qualified enough to get an Oz-PR, and she couldn't get a job in Oz. She tried her luck in Indo, no job either for monthsss. So what happened next is she was married to a Indo-born Oz-PR. All these life-time-contract just to fulfil her desire to stay in Oz.
Even when she finally held an Oz-PR, she still couldn't find a job. So she created one.... no, she created 2. She had 2 kids, so she's a full time mother.
Not saying that being a mother is not a real job, I know it's a tough job. But if you know all these started just because she wanted to stay in Oz and her inability to find a job. It's a bit ... ugh, whatever, I really sound bitter now.
But it happened to many of my gf-s!  Well, at least they look happy on Facebook.

Saturday, September 21, 2013

Logic: a BusyBody Auntie and a Fortune-Telling Uncle


A conversation occurred in a formal event I attended a few weeks ago, between a stranger 70 years old auntie and me. Btw, I dunno the auntie personally, she happened to share a table with me and other biz acquaintances.
70 y.o. Auntie: how many kids do you have?
                Me: don't have any, auntie
70 y.o. Auntie: how long have you been married?
                Me: not married yet, auntie
70 y.o. Auntie: how old are you? What's wrong with you???
                Me: (awkward smile)

                Friend #1: You know young people nowadays. Hahahaha
70 y.o. Auntie: You have to get married! What kind of life do you expect?!

Suddenly an uncle rushed into the conversation...
Uncle: ya ya... People nowadays... Ming, can I borrow your hand?
      Me: eee... No... (was really reluctant to have a fortune telling session)
Uncle: left hand, all I need is to see it. Won't touch it.
      Me: oh... Ok. What u gonna do? Fortune telling?
Uncle: Can u feel it? (So, he keep his palm opened on top of my palm... Keeping a distance)
      Me: what?
Uncle: I am sending it to you, you responded... Can u feel something like electric current?
      Me: no
Uncle: yes you can, you just refused to do so
      Me: what?
Uncle: you refused to get married because you are way too logical. A person should balance logic and feeling. You shut off all your feeling, you had a trauma before. That's why you are closing the door
      Me: eeeee... No trauma
Uncle: you cannot lie to me. I have special ability. It runs in my family, we can "read" people, can see future 
      Me: ooo.... OK

      Friend #1: now my turn!!!
Uncle: come come... You know, my whole family have the ability. 
(Doing the hand thingy again)
You are good, you are very balanced. You let you emotion rule sometimes. 
      Friend #1: can you see any traumas?
Uncle: no... Very good. Not like ming's. All just logic
      Friend #1: I have a lot of trauma... A lot. Why can't you see it?

Finally, the uncle's magic ability has brought some show, Friend #2 and 70 y.o. Auntie quickly said, "Now our turn!!!"

So that's how my friends helped me :) hehehee.

Nothing much. I laughed when he "read" me. I didn't think much of it, I know it's bullsh*t. Until the next day;
we had a fun-bike event. To cut the story short, the event was poorly organised (let's blame the lousy Jakarta EO!) and there were some accidents during the biking event, including the fortune teller uncle. He was the only one being carried into ambulance for his severe injuries: big cuts on his legs, I heard. Saw his legs wrapped up with big bandages.

So much for the special ability, should he know he would have bad injuries, he shouldn't go for the bike event, rite?
Or, probably, he gonna say, things are unavoidable.
If it's, why bothering reading it? I am not impressed at all...

Thursday, March 28, 2013

Meeting is Fate...

Read this somewhere, do you agree?

"Meeting is Fate"
"Marriage is Choice"
"But Falling in Love Happens in a Moment Beyond Your Control"

I still believe "the millions years" thing, though...

Saturday, October 20, 2012

Searching for Love under The Moon

It costs us 80NTD to get there from Taipei Station by cab. The name is 霞海城隍廟 (pinyin: Xiá hǎi chénghuángmiào) or translated into:  Xiahai City God Temple. The temple is small, yet it is crowded.  The crowd was endless, the pot was full with incenses, the temple was flooded with candies, cakes and flowers.
霞海城隍廟
The guardian of temple is 月下老人 = Yuè xià lǎorén - The Old Man Under The Moon (abb. Yue Lao)  – a Chinese god, who is responsible for matchmaking. Yes, those people who came here have one purpose in mind, to find their significant others.

As the temple received a lot of foreign visitor (last week when I was there, a troop of Japanese girls was there too), the temple staffs are responsible to teach newbies for the proper worshipping procedures. They are super friendly, they’ll teach you step by step patiently.

For FIRST timer:
- Get some gold-paper-money and incense, you can buy it on the spot for NTD50. You also need to buy some red-thread, and material for Blessed Tea material: sugar+red dates. Also available on the spot for NTD250. (please pay it yourself, do not lend money from others… or your love may goes to your friend. Hahaha)
- Go to the frontyard, pray to Ti-Kong / Jade Emperor

Yue Lao Shrine
- Get back to the temple, pray to Yue Lao. You need to tell him your name, birthday, and address. And then tell him the expected criteria of your future spouse. Be detailed, be VERY VERY DETAILED.
Don’t forget to promise Yue Lao, that if you have find your love, you’ll come back to personally thank him and bring him some “Happiness Cookies” as a token of thanks.



More shrines at the back
- After Yue Lao, continue your prayers to other gods in the temple. You won’t be lost, they put numbers on the shrine. Just follow the numbers, k?
- After praying to all gods, get back to the front yard and place your incenses in the big burning pot. For the gold-paper-money, you can just leave it on the table in front of the temple, they’ll help you to burn it.

pouch for red thread for sale
- The staff then will give your red-thread and place it in a special pouch (you get it for free – special for foreign visitor). You need to “add power” by circling the red-thread into the smoke from the front yard incense pot. Do it clockwise. Make a wish! Now place the red-thread pouch in your pocket or bag. Remember to carry it with you always, love can be found anywhere, you know!

- The staff will also give you some “Happiness Cookies” ie. candy, cake, or biscuits. – which was offered by successful couples as a thank you to Yue Lao. By eating those, may you get infected by their love-success.

Blessed Tea for Sweet Life
- And at last, the staff will offer you “Blessed Tea” (remember you bought some ingredient for tea? – this is the result). By drinking the tea, may your life will be sweet and peaceful. The tea is hot, but please do not blow your tea. As the action may also blow away your chance to find love

- Voila, done!!!
For SECOND timer, you can omit buying the tea-ingredients and the red-thread. After all the above procedures, all you need to do is to “add power” to your previously owned pouch. And you can take more "Happiness Cookie" and drink some Blessed Tea too :)  
What a lovely afternoon tea...
I visited the temple earlier this year. If you asked me, does it work? I have to admit that, IT DOES. It works, exactly like what I requested to Yue Lao. The problem is, my request wasn't detailed enough.
As for this second visit, I couldn’t bring myself to ask for a new love candidate. The one that he got me before was perfect, but ... (sorry, I can't tell you)
So, this time, I wasn’t really “panicky” to go to the temple. My friends were. Hahaha.

Btw, according to the temple staff, they received about 20something packages of "Happiness Cookies" DAILY. That means there are more than 7000 marriages a year!!! OMG, Yue Lao is so busy!!! Yue Lao, please pay more attention to me. >.<~

NOTE:
When I took these pictures, I overheard 2 boys who were sitting in front of the temple saying “Look at them, praying so seriously, why can’t they just open their eyes and pay more attention? Can’t they see that there are choices, right in front of their eyes”
I laughed, those boys were right. We prayed so hard asking for prince charming to sweep our feet away, but in fact, the perfect guy is right here, right in front of our eyes. Yet we choose to ignore them.
Pathetic, isn't it?
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Who is Yue Lao?
Here is the legend behind it (Believe it or not, I heard this story from mom long time ago when I was a little kid)

Yue Lao’s legend dates back to the Tang-Dynasty story “The Marriage Tavern.” A scholar named Wei Gu meets an old man in a tavern. Watching him thumb through a barely legible text by moonlight, Wei realizes he’s the netherworld official who binds together couples listed in the registry of those predestined to marry.
When the curious Wei asks who he is destined to marry, the old man replies that he will marry the three-year-old daughter of a blind vegetable seller in the market. Upset by the news, Wei orders a servant to kill the little girl. She survives the attempt, but scarred and is adopted by a provincial governor, who marries her to Wei Gu some 14 years later. After his marriage, Wei discovers that the flower petals his wife sticks to her forehead hide a scar from a knife wound received as a child, and realizes that Yue Lao’s prophecy was accurate.

Monday, September 24, 2012

Blinding Love

It's amazing how love will occupy your mind. All of your mind.
On my not-so-recent trip, I witnessed how my fellow travelmate was so crazy in love to other travel mate.
People started to whisper about them, I think they both knew about it.
They tried to be discreet, but the "love" atmosphere around them couldn't be hidden.

I mean, just like little things. The lady was always worry about the guy.
Always put him 1st. Getting him food, seat, anything, everything!
Obviously they were still in dating stage. That's why they were so lovely. Hahaha. They won't be so love-y if they've moved on to more serious stage, rite?
Her actions were more than a wife to a hubby. Seriously! The only thing they couldn't do was to hug or kiss in public for photos (like what real couples freely do).
Sometimes, when they were off-guard, they called each other "honey" ...
So, that what's love can do to u. Crazy in love. And despite those rolling eyes, you'll easily forget and ignore all your surrounding.
Blinding you with all the love love love.

Well, I hope I won't be like her. I want my guy to be crazy about me and adores me, forever. I don't want it to be the other way around like what happen to my travelmate :(

Sunday, June 10, 2012

29 05 12

I don’t know how to explain this.
No particular feeling, in fact I didn’t feel anything the first time I saw you …
Yet I couldn’t even explain how I could share so much to one that I barely know
Or, could it be we have crossed path many times before
I wish I could find out what happened in the past
But then, pasts are pasts, fading memories are not to be remembered
You, one who is in the right track
You, to jump out of this rat-wheel
You, to leave me soon
You, the free one
Tell me, what should I do now?
Where should I go?